Hereโs What She ACTUALLY Wants You To Text Herโฆ
Now that you have her number, do you know THE BEST WAY toย text her and get a date?
In this video, Nicole reveals how girls actually want you to ask them out on a date.
Sheโll also reveal some huge mistakes guys make when it comes to texting.
WING GIRL WISDOM:
What She ACTUALLY Wants You To Text Her
Hey, itโs Nicole with The Attractive Man Team, and Iโm going to reveal how a girl ACTUALLY wants you to text her and ask her out. ย Iโm going to be telling you all the doโs and donโts of texting a girl those first few times after youโve gotten her number to make sure you donโt send her running away and so you can actuallyย get a dateย fast.
Iโm gonna show you some real-life examples of texts Iโve received and then break them down for you based on the good, AND the bad. Then at the very end, Iโll tell you the absolute BEST way to secure a date!
What Kind of Texts Do Girls HATE?!
Iโm gonna show you a few texts that were big fails, so you donโt make the same mistakeโฆ
#3. The drunk text/the pointless text
This guy did both, All in one text. A guyโs FIRST text to me was at 4 in the morning. On a Sunday night. And it was nonsense. Just an emoji next to a random letter. Not only was this text completely pointless, but it also woke me up at 4 in the morning. Meaningless texts that say nothing are a waste of everyoneโs time and make you seem like youโre not very interesting.
#2. The texts that will get you destroyed in her group texts
These can include anything from excessive emoji/meme usage (are you 12?!) to horrible grammar/spelling, to inappropriate messages or pictures. If your first text to girl includes bad spelling and 15 emojis, it doesnโt matter if you told her sheโs the most gorgeous girl in the history of the earth, sheโs going to think youโre an idiot.
That might be harsh, but itโs true. And inappropriate texts are not ok when trying to get the first date. Youโre going to make her feel creeped out, and sheโs not going to give you the time of day. Itโs the biggest turn-off. No girl wants this. Look, itโs great you think weโre attractive! And we love to hear it! But just straight up asking for pics from someone that you literally met yesterday comes across as super creepy.
Pro tip: If you really want to see us that bad, make actual plans to do so!
#1. The noncommittal text
If you want to see the biggest collective eye-roll from any group of girls, ask them how they feel about a guy sending the โwe should hang out sometimeโ text.
โWe should hang out sometimeโ translates to โIโm going to make as little effort as possible.โ and isnโt going to lead to a date unless that girl is REALLY desperate. Plan a freaking date! A lot of guys seem to have this idea that if you call it a โdateโ and actually suggest a day and time, itโs suddenly something serious. But any normal girl does NOT think that youโre imagining wedding bells because you called it a date.
If you canโt say anything more than โletโs hang out sometimeโ youโre going to lose her interest immediately. And letโs face it, thereโs always the slight possibility that she may be just gave out her number to be nice. Maybe she has a boyfriend, maybe she was just super drunk, or maybe sheโs not in a place where she wants to date anyone. Being straightforward with your intentions will help weed those types of girls out, so youโre not wasting your time with someone whoโs gonna flake anyway.
What Kind Of Texts Do Girls LOVE?!
Moving on to the things that WILL get you a dateโฆ
ย #3. Unique compliments
Itโs amazing how many guys actually forget to flirt via text or donโt know how to do it properly. Before asking her out, it can be a great buffer to send a few flirty texts. You can always send something a little cheesy like โit was great to meet you, I canโt wait to see your pretty face againโ or โyouโre so beautifulโ but, while those are nice and flattering, it sounds like a cookie cutter compliment.
If thereโs something specific about us that you liked or ANYthing we did or said that you thought was cute, tell us! Girls eat that shit up. (A guy pointed out how he thought I had a cute sneeze. No one is cute when they sneeze unless youโre a baby panda, but the fact that he said this was really endearing and cute.)
A unique comment or compliment about THAT girl specifically is not only a surefire way to let her know youโre interested, but it also shows that you paid attention to something other than her boobs when you met her, and that really matters!
#2. Actual plans
Okay, the flirting is going well, and you want to ask her out. Even if you left your balls at home that day and canโt bring yourself to call it a date, take control and make real plans with her. (A guy was asking me to drinks where he suggested a location and two-day options. He even picked a place close to me because he remembered I lived on the opposite side of town from him. Good stuff.)
Girls want a guy who is confident and is able to make decisions. If youโre wishy-washy or โI dunno, itโs up to youโ then it seems like youโre not confident or not even that interested. Girls love a guy who can take charge and pursue them. Setting the day and location also gives you the freedom to choose a place where youโre in your own element and comfortable.
#1. Whatโs the numberย one way to stand out?ย CALL THE GIRL!
I feel like this should come up in a big giant text when I say this!
So Iโve shown you a couple examples of guys who did everything right via textโฆgreat flirting, great decision makingโฆ but spoiler alert. I didnโt go out with any of them. Why may you ask? They lost out to the one guy who actually had the balls to CALL me to ask me out.
It wasnโt a long conversation; it was very concise โHey, I really enjoyed meeting you this weekend and would like to see you again. Can I take you out tomorrow night?โ He then told me there was a new restaurant heโd been wanting to try, so we should go there. I said yes in a heartbeat!
He displayed a level of confidence and courage that no one else did, without even having to come up with witty flirtatious texts and that was so incredibly attractive! Calling someone is nerve-wracking. Everyone knows that. But even if you hate talking on the phone, and even if SHE hates talking on the phone, or even if you barely had the chance to talk to her when you got her number, a quick call to set up a date will make you seem like you have your shit together and you will stand out every time.
Not all girls will actually answer the phone, especially if you didnโt get a chance to talk much when you met. But thatโs okay! Itโs totally fine to shoot her a text afterwards because itโs more about the ACT of you calling than the actual phone conversation itself. If she doesnโt answer, texting her after to say why you were calling is totally cool.
That gives her the option to return your call or just text back. If she doesnโt respond then, youโll know that maybe sheโs just not that into you.
Getting a girlโs number is just the first step.ย If you follow these doโs and donโts, youโre sure to score an awesome date!
To help you out with what you need to say,ย I created this Free Conversation Cheat Sheet where I break down exactly what to say after โHiโ to make her want you.
You get:
- My top conversation starters for any situationโฆ
- Simple techniques to never run out of things to sayโฆ
- A list of my favorite games to play that create a fun-flirty vibe
- And simple ways to escalate the interaction.
- And more!
Download it nowย because youโll want to keep this handy before you go out.
